People are Still Having Sex...Go see Them Please

What is the big deal about sex?

"Are you having sex? Did they have sex? Are they having sex? Do you think they will have sex? Do you think they are still having sex? Do you think they might have sex with me? Will you have sex with me? Why not??"

Get those organs and hands away from me right now please. Touching me, especially after I say please no, will not influence my decision in fact it will do the opposite. It will turn me off more and make me think you are just a manipulative sleaze, too lazy to masturbate, and you are looking to me to get you off instead. No matter who you think you are, or how important you think you are, you are not a special snowflake

Constantly being told by the media that there is something wrong with us if we are not having sex or thinking about sex every minute of every day is just ludicrous. The ads for those make it last longer strips, sprays and pills oh purlease!!! Make it go away. If I am the only person in the world that thinks just get it over with and finish in less than a minute well then that is ok! I am happy to be all alone in that thought and am perfectly ok knowing that every other female out there in the world is wanting to have sex for hours on end. I can live being the only female happy not to potentially have friction burns down there from hours of activity. I do not how anyone else feels but to me it is most uncomfortable and primarily quite tedious to have someone thrusting away, demanding some porn star style performance off you every night and again the next morning because they wake up, up and will not take "no" for an answer despite how you might feel

News flash for those so inclined. You are wanting an on tap porn star for a girlfriend that you guilt or bully into saying yes because you claim to be a Master or Dominant? That may sound like a sweet deal but only for you and only if no one finds out what you are doing to her. You have needs. I get that. You want it constantly when You want it? You have a submissive so You can be serviced when You want, where and however it suits You. That is nice for you. You push it at them every time you get a hard on like you have no idea how to control it or what to do with it by yourself unless it is fixed for you. What did you do with it before they were to hand? Approach random women and insist they deal with it for you? Man up like you have a pair

There is such a thing as balance and self control and most submissives have no problem being available on tap. Turning round and abusing that privilege and berating the submissive if things do not go exactly how you imagine they should be going in your head? That seems a little unfair no?

Sex constantly in this sort of situation? I would rather have a cup of tea

Service Submission - Is it Really that Confusing?

I am so often asked "So what type of submissive are you?" at munches and events by others. When I reply "I am a service oriented submissive" people's reactions range from bemused confusion to a completely blank look. That is just from people that are allegedly old hands in the BDSM scene. I can totally understand a blank look from people new to the kink community not understanding what that means. However from people that claim to be Old Guard, Old School, "Thirty years in the scene"; Highly Experienced Masters/Mistresses? Seriously? You have never encountered someone like me before? I find that harder to believe especially when they lecture me about what I am doing wrong in aspects of my kink life because I do not combine kink and sex...like they do. These same experienced, often big side of the slash type people, then go on to question me about what kinds of things a service submissive does in detail

I do not often understand where the confusion arises about service oriented submissives and service oriented submission. I did not think it was that hard really, but obviously it is a real brain bender, particularly when coupled with a non-sexual basis to the service. I would have thought the words service oriented submissive would perhaps give some clues, or be self explanatory, but again obviously not. My sincere apologies for being unclear

I am a submissive individual. My submission is service oriented. It is completely non-sexual when being offered as a general type of submissive service (e.g serving beverages or food at an event) to large groups of people. Much in the same way you would not expect to have sex with the waitress at a restaurant in the restaurant during the meal, if it helps to compare the service to a vanilla setting. Obviously when in service to a Dominant and Owned and in an intimate relationship with them that is an entirely different situation and I perform any and all services as They require. Asking me a question like "So what kind of service based submission do you prefer to offer?" might be a much better question

I am at heart a house service submissive. This, in essence, means I am most comfortable as part of a Household structure serving the House and its Owners as a whole rather than being owned purely by a single person who just wants a primarily sexual based submissive with whom to have sex and display at play parties for sexual gratification, not that there is anything wrong with that kind of dynamic. It suits many others and that is lovely for them. That kind of sexual based submission is just not my preference

My service is predominantly based in a non-sexual manner. Think a housekeeper of a Victorian or Edwardian house or an executive personal assistant. I do my best to make sure everything and everyone for whom I am responsible and to whom I am responsible in the House upholds their responsibilities, including myself. This means making sure tasks are completed on time, the calendar appointments are updated and reminded, the household is attended to and the nitty-gritty details are done in advance so that the Owners basically do not have to worry about those boring little details. That is my job. That is what makes me happiest

I love to have the House running smoothly, quietly. To have everything "just so" the way it was instructed originally so that constant micromanagement is avoided. That everything is to hand instantly and returned there for next time. To have everything running along so that the rest of the submissives of the House know their responsibilities without having to micromanage them constantly either so they do their tasks to their best ability. That I feel is the ultimate compliment to pay both sides of the slash so that no one feels unsure or left out and everyone is satisfied ultimately

To have an event occur flawlessly. Sprezzatura is the goal for all in service of the House or event so that if it has made others pleased and they have had a wonderful time at the event, or for them to have not even noticed the service going on around them as it was so unobtrusive, then we have done well. Those are the things that often please me more than most sexual experiences